Telling Myself the Truth About Worry (message 4)

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12 November, 2023Rev Ken GrahamTelling Myself the Truth

What’s the most difficult command in the Bible to follow?   Phil 4:6.

An average person’s worry is:   40% are things that will never happen, 30% are things about the past that can’t be changed, 12% are things about criticism by others (much of which is untrue), 10% are things about health, 8% are real problems that will be faced!


Eng. root word: “to choke, to strangle”.  Gk. word: “a divided mind”.


1.        What is the Truth about Worry? 


A.       Worry is not logical.   

          It can be an unreasonable obsession with unimportant things.


B.       Worry is not normal.  

          We have learned how to worry (and we can unlearn it!)


C.       Worry is useless.  

          It is “stewing without doing”.


D.       Worry indicates a lack of understanding about God’s character. 


2.     What is the Truth about Overcoming Worry? 


God’s solution to the problem with worry we all struggle with?


A.        Have the right life priority.  

          Worry is a warning light of mixed-up values & confused priorities.


B.       Focus on each day.  

          “Today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday!” 

God’s provision is daily.


C.       Rely on God.  

          Worry and trust cannot live within the same heart.

  God’s peace: “stands as a sentry” – “God’s ‘protective custody’ of those who are in Christ Jesus extends to the core of their beings.


Peace or worry?  

What we experience in our life becomes a spiritual question. 

Who are we trusting in and relying on?

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